White lies

How often do you lie? How often do you think other people lie to you? How often are we lied to? Why do we lie?

Can you say 3 sentences about yourself where one is a lie?

The average person will tell at least three lies in a ten-minute ocnversation.

It is OK to  lie in order not to hurt people´s feelings.

Teenagers lie to their parents.

Men and women tell the same number of lies but they lie about differen things.

Liars never look you in the eye.

Can we spot a liar?

Based on: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tjRP0FnoxN8

There are a number of different reasons why we lie. We might lie for personal gain (osobní prospěch), we might lie to avoid punishment (vyhnout se trestu), we might lie because we get a kick out of (bavit se) pulling the wool over somebody else´s eyes (věšet bulíky na nos, balamutit). Everybody lies. Imagine the situation where we told the truth all the time, we certainly wouldn´t have friends for more than 24 hours.

People lie to get rewards and avoid harm (újma). To get a good job people lie on their CVs. We lie to gain more money. People also lie often because they want others to see them more favourably (kladně). In order to get a better date (partner), they lie on a dating app.

Researchers suggest that when we are married about one in 10 of our interactions (výměna informací) is a form of deception (podvod). But when we are in the early stages of getting to know a person, or dating them, it can be as high as almost half the things, that we tell the other person could be deceptive (klamý) in some kind of way.

The most common type of lies that we tend (mít tendenci) to tell are the white lies, the protective lies (dobře míněná lež, milosrdná lež); e.g. telling your mother that her meatloaf (karbanátek) is delicious when you really hate the meatloaf, telling your friend that she doesn't look fat in her dress when she asks because you don't want to tell her that she's gained a lot of weight and looks heavy (silná).

Recent research has found that people lie more often in emails and on social media than in face-to-face encounters (setkání), it is called a virtual lie (virtuální lež, lhaní na sociálních sítích). What's worse is that virtual communication is now preferred over direct communication. Studies have shown that, in business, on average, people lie once in every fifth negotiation (vyjednávání) lasting longer than ten minutes.

We like to think of ourselves as very honest, trustworthy and truthful people. So one of the reason that we might not be good at tracking (sedování) how often we have lied is that we protect ourselves, our self-esteem (hrdost) and make ourselves feel better about ourselves.

Questions:

Do you lie/tell lies? How often do you lie?

Do you cheat at school? Do you copy/crib work from someone else?

Have you ever been accused of cribbing test, essay, homework?

Were you caught cribbing the answers from your friend?

Could you cheat on your partner?

Would you accept being cheated on?

Could you have a friend who would lie to you? Are there any situation you could accept their lies?

What is a white lie? What is a virtual lie? 

 Make up a white lie:

"I look like zombie. I did not sleep well tonight."

"What do you think of my dress? Isn´t it too tight?"

"My new hairstyle is not for my age group."

"I am too old to do such things."

"I should not date her, she is not my age group."

"I put on some weight, I look like a whale."

"I am such a boring person."

"I am such a terrible person."

4) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MKfdFYqOI5k My girlfriend is cheating on me.

Vocabulary

lie                                                                  lež;lhát 

 true                                                             pravdivý.         it is true

tell a lie/lies                                                 lhát 

 truth (noun)                                                pravda            the truth is......

you are lying                                                  lžeš 

 tell the truth                                                 říkat pravdu

you are telling lies                                         lžeš

 it is true                                                         je to pravda

trust me                                                         věř mi

a liar                                                                lhář 

 honest                                                           čestný

He is an honest person.                               je to cestný člověk

Believe me. I am honest.                              důvěřuj mi  jsem čestný

a fraud                                                            podvodník (finanční) 

 trustworthy                                                   důvěryhodný, spolehlivý

a conman podvodník reliable                       spolehlivý

a con artist                                                      podvodník

a snake oil salesman (obchodník s hadím olejem - hist.)   podvodník, který nabízí nefunkční product

to con                                                                vylákat peníze, oblafnout

I do not believe you.                                         neveří ti

bluff                                                                    blufovat, oblafnout

you are bluffing                                                 blafuješ

to make up (stories)                                         vymýšlet si

to fabricate                                                       vykonstruovat, vymýšlet

How to say that you do not believe them How to convince (přesvědčit) bollocks blbosti someone that you are telling the truth

It is bollocks                                                      To jsou voloviny. I am telling you the truth

Bollocks are you! Ty kecáš! I swear                 přísahám

Baloney! Nesmysl, kecy I give you my word   Dávám ti mé slovo

Pinky swear                                                       na mou duši

vulgarism - strong words

It sounds like bullshit                                        To jsou voloviny

This big /This much?            Tak velká?/Tolik? (reakce na např. jak vekou rybu chytil, jak moc si vydělal)

buy = believe; I do not buy it!                           To neberu! (= tomu nevěřím)

exaggerate                                                          přehánět 

 You are exaggerating .                                      To přeháníš.

lead ( led - led) someone on                              nabulíkovat, navést

I loved him and he led me on.                            Milovala jsem ho a on mi vodil za nos.

I shit you not!                                                        Nedělám si prdel!

be shitting sb                                                       dělat si prdel

you are full of shit                                                 Děláš si srandu.

Do not listen to him. He is full of ..IT.                  Neposlouchej ho, pořád kecá.

Pull the wool over sb´s eyes                               balamutit, houpat, věšet bulíky na nos